I don't know this person in person, but only from an online forum and chatroom that I help moderate. I have seen this person's postings for the last 8 years, but he has certain patterns and I'm curious as to what psychological disorder it falls under.
A brief history first. From what I know about this person, he is getting into his late 20s, and has always commented about not being able to get into/keep a relationship. He still lives at home and has had trouble in college and keeping a job (had 2 of them - one was lost due to the recession). This person also has poor use of grammar (i.e. uses present tense with a past tense verb). This person is also online from late afternoon/early evening until dawn the next day.
This person creates artwork for a computer game mods. As a side note, I've noticed a pattern with users who create mods tend to get into trouble (trolling, flaming, spam) when posting in a non-gaming section of this forum. In this individual's case, I think he wants to have a bigger ego, but lacks self esteem.
Personally, I think he has a Self-Defeating/Histronic/Avoidant Personality Disorder (possibly schizophrenic?) with depression and an Internet addiction.
First 4 years - mostly on this forum's chatroom
- Would spend 6-12 hours talking about the following:
- Why he can't get a girlfirend
- Why girls reject him
- About his fear of rejection
- About being made fun of at school
- About why these users from another forum can't stop making fun of him
- Why he can't seem to learn in college
- Why he couldn't "change" a personality flaw overnight
Attempts by anyone to help him disolves into an all day chatroom discussion.
- Had a pre-occupation with a female computer game/sci-fi movie character (used as an avatar in the said forum). That caused some to make fun of him.
- Would get into situations where people made fun of him, or would lose a debate, then come to the "home" chatroom and try to get sympathy. The next day, the same cycle would repeat. This is what I think was (still is to some extent) a pattern of self-defeating behavior.
- Would dramatize hurting himself, then chat like nothing ever happened.
- Emphatically declare his comings and goings, especially after a vigorous chatroom debate. People tired of this after awhile, and he would often repeat his emphatic declaration to get attention.
- In a forum games, he didn't like to lose and felt rejected when he did.
- Spend hours on end in the chatroom trying to "change" a personality flaw. I think he had an idealistic view of himself that he could change who he was overnight, then he'd get depressed the next day that he hadn't changed.
- Saw himself as gullible, and was easily persuaded by different political/religious viewpoints. He'd vigorously defend his viewpoints (based on what he thinks, and not facts), then switch viewpoints after he 'loses' the debate.
- He would seek constant consolation from a few members in the chatroom after being made fun of or losing some debate.
- He seemed embarrassed or humiliated by his gender identity, and showed 'hatred' for his 'past' (which I think it's something he percieves do to being made fun of at school).
- He had a "female persona" (the name of the character he used as an avatar) which he used when trying to fix a peresonality flaw. He often used it in another chatroom where he knew he'd be made fun of if he went with his real username. Only, the fake name always had a part of his username in it.
- Wants help, but then spends the rest of the day in the chatroom stating why it's impossible or that he's unable to do it or just flat out refuses the advice.
Things came to a head one day when he had spent 10 hours bemoaning that he's doing bad in college, can't complete his work on time (10 hours in the chatroom would be a reason). Being in charge of this chatroom, I blocked him from the room so that he could actually concentrate on schoolwork, and he responded in a private chatroom message with obscenities until he calmed down 5 minutes later. Since then, any forum authority figure who warns or bans him is "out to get him".
The next 4 years- Seems drawn to topics involving relationships, gender identity, employment and politics.
- When posting in these topics, he starts off with a short sentence bemoaning his misfortune in a said topic, and using emoticons to show how he feels.
- Like before, he holds a viewpoint, defends it vigorously, but without anything to back it up, then is convinced otherwise through debate and switches viewpoints. These viewpoints last anywhere from a few days to a few months.
- Isn't as depressed as before and isn't as dramatic, so that's one thing that seemed to have improved to some degree.
- Thinks anyone who disagrees with him is "out to get him".
- An increased fear of socializing in the real world (I think he just gave up).
- Currently has trouble keeping down a job and/or finding one and wonders why people don't just hand him one.
- Still refuses advice given to him.
From what I've searched, this is what seems to fit this person-
Histronic[qoute]
?Attention-seeking, feel uncomfortable when they are not the center of attention.
?Rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions.
?Exhibits self-dramatization, theatricality, and exaggerated expression of emotion.
?Impressionable; overly trusting; gullible; easily influenced by others; forms beliefs based on little or no evidence and defends those beliefs passionately.
?Considers relationships to be more intimate than they actually are.[/quote]
Anxious/Fearfula. Avoidant personality disorder-fear of taking risks, gullible, hyper-sensitive, avoids all things that include social interaction.
b. Dependent personality disorder-due to neglect-needy, has been abandoned and feel it will happen again.
c. Obsessive-compulsive personality-anxiety disorder, repetitive, compelling thoughts and obsessions concerning things that aren’t reality (i.e. cleaning things that are already clean).
Self Defeating Personality Disorderchooses people and situations that lead to disappointment, failure, or mistreatment even when better options are clearly available
rejects or renders ineffective the attempts of others to help him or her
incites angry or rejecting responses from others and then feels hurt, defeated, or humiliated (e.g., makes fun of spouse in public, provoking an angry retort, then feels devastated)
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August 27, 2009, 08:33:15 AM