Curious

[DrGonzo]

Starts out obsessive over partner and quickly loses interest once child is born.
Wouldn’t let other look after the child.(is that often a sign of abuse?)

Strong interest in the outdoors survival etc.
Highly intelligent
Second level maths teacher in an all girls school ( would this be unusual for someone that is highly intelligent teaching second level as opposed to third level I realise there are obviously very intelligent second level teachers just guessing it wouldn’t be too common? )

Mother of partner took an immediate dislike to him to the point that relations were strained between them mother and daughter.

Children that came in contact with him who immediately liked him greatly ( along with all of the adults) dispised after a while to the point would leave the house when he was around whereas initially he would bring them swimming. On 1 occasion he psychically & aggressively dragged a child out of the pool when they didn’t exit after being told another instance of violently shaking a child of no more than 5.

Ok with the info I have given probably biased with the interest in survival controlling initialling charming etc would I be right in guessing that he would tick a lot of boxes of a sociopath?

What im really curious to is the possessiveness of child is it love or could it have been more sinister?

[acousticeagle]

What I suggest is finding a site online that lists the criteria for what are the commonly accepted symptoms for sociopathy. To define a socipath they need to fit the profile.

The person you describe sounds like they are requiring a high degree of attention from others. A teacher will have the attention of students and maybe has come to demand/expect that. When the child was born, this man loses interest, that is, he no longer has the full attention of the partner. Took possession of the child - there's a lot of anger there.

I would say that this person is reacting from strong feelings of rejection. His possessive behaviour to the partner at first is a way for him to control any feelings of rejection he might be afraid of experiencing.

Dragging the child out of the pool when the child was told to leave the pool is another indication, I think, of him feeling rejected - that is - his authority to the child is ignored, and thus his rejection feelings are triggered. He has reacted with aggression - taken the child's ignoring him as a personal affront to his self-worth.

If you know this person reasonably well, I would be looking at his own family history for more of the clues here.