help please

[mondays@1]

I have been in therapy for nearly two years with  complex PTSD.caused by a childhood history of PA,MA,EA and SA......i am really suffering with maternal transference feelings with my T at the moment ............things have become unbearably worse since she told me she loved me 4 months ago during a very traumatic session........i am so confused, i dont know hwether to ride the storm or get out now........any suggestions?
thanks for reading

[voodoo scientist]

"Don't shit where you eat" goes double for therapy. While tantalizing to hook up with your savior, it is a good idea to remember that your "savior" failed at "saving" you when she fell in love with you and did not terminate the therapeutic relationship, a fact easily missed when in a position like yours.

My advice is to remove yourself from the therapeutic relationship and cut ties with the therapeut. You are aware of a potential problem and your own vulnerability and have every chance to make a successful recovery, but not with a bad therapist - you cannot continue a therapeutic relationship with someone who has professed to love you. When you feel stable again, you can seek her out again for a more personal relationship and see where it goes.

[mondays@1]

thank you very much for your reply, i sincerely appreciate it.......can i ask another question based on that then?.............obviously she didn't mean it in as romantic way..she more meant it in a mttoherly caring way..so even this is crossing boundaries and is a no no?
  i guess it explains why i am so confused.....
Thanks for replying

[voodoo scientist]

Well, it appears my foot's firmly planted in my mouth.

It's not crossing any ethical guidelines, however, the situation obviously makes this more complicated than other cases. If you've not told your therapist about this yet, I would recommend bringing it up with her, as these feelings manifesting with her, rather than your mother, could be useful in dealing with some of your problems by proxy without any real risk. If you have told her about it and she's done nothing, I would recommend getting a new therapist - like any other kind of relationship, sometimes a therapeutic relationship just doesn't work out.

Are you undergoing any specific PTSD treatment (whether psycho- or pharmacological) for this, or are you receiving psychotherapeutic counseling?

[ftrammell]

My opinion is that your therapist should care about you but only as her patient in order to help you. As long as theirs no romantic feelings I feel that there is no problem, but if you feel somewhat uncomfortable speak on that. This might be another issue that needs to be addresses.